Monday, May 13, 2013

Mother's Day

This year Mother's Day was hard for me for personal reasons.  But yet, the person who made me a mother, my soul mate Nora, made the day joyful and I found myself breathing through the sucky thoughts.  And Garret made Trader Joe croissants and hot coffee and brought them to me in bed.  Not a bad day at all. 

A friend posted this poem-of-sorts on Facebook and I wanted to post it here.  I found it beautiful. 

"To those who gave birth this year to their first child—we celebrate with you

To those who lost a child this year – we mourn with you

To those who are in the trenches with little ones every day and wear the badge of food stains – we appreciate you

To those who experienced loss through miscarriage, failed adoptions, or running away—we mourn with you

To those who walk the hard path of infertility, fraught with pokes, prods, tears, and disappointment – we walk with you. Forgive us when we say foolish things. We don’t mean to make this harder than it is.

To those who are foster moms, mentor moms, and spiritual moms – we need you

To those who have warm and close relationships with your children – we celebrate with you

To those who have disappointment, heart ache, and distance with your children – we sit with you

To those who lost their mothers this year – we grieve with you

To those who experienced abuse at the hands of your own mother – we acknowledge your experience

To those who lived through driving tests, medical tests, and the overall testing of motherhood – we are better for having you in our midst

To those who are single and long to be married and mothering your own children -we mourn that life has not turned out the way you longed for it to be

To those who step-parent – we walk with you on these complex paths

To those who envisioned lavishing love on grandchildren -yet that dream is not to be, we grieve with you

To those who will have emptier nests in the upcoming year – we grieve and rejoice with you

To those who placed children up for adoption — we commend you for your selflessness and remember how you hold that child in your heart

And to those who are pregnant with new life, both expected and surprising –we anticipate with you

This Mother’s Day, we walk with you. Mothering is not for the faint of heart and we have real warriors in our midst. We remember you."

This year I found myself fitting several of these categories.  Motherhood is not just for those of us with living children, or human children, but for the women who choose to nurture and love the world in a way that will be remembered.  

Happy Mother's Day!

1 comment:

  1. Happy (belated) Mother's Day! That poem is really touching, and I think it's good to acknowledge that Mother's Day isn't always about Kodak moments and brunch and flowers -- it can be emotional difficult for a lot of people, and it's important to include all kinds of mothers in our thoughts on the day.