Newborn Nora |
Garret and I are doing the attached parenting style of parenting. Basically we babywear, breastfeed (though you can do attachment parenting and bottlefeed) on demand, co-sleep, etc. Nora isn't old enough to be disciplining, but we're planning on using the gentle discipline style. No, this doesn't mean she'll get to misbehave and run wild....she'll have a lot of consequences and boundaries.
But back to babywearing. It allows her to be on me or G most of the time, looking at the world on a higher level. Because we co-sleep (and she nurses to sleep), it's hard to put her down for a nap if we're needing to do something because it involves me having to lie down with her to get her to sleep (though then I can usually get up and do other things). So when she gets a little cranky (okay, she looks like the vampires from The Vampire Diaries with red rimmed eyes and like she'll eat your face), we either lie down or....she gets put into one of the carriers. When she was a little baby this meant the Sleepy Wrap (now owned by Boba), which was a joke because every time we put her in it she went to sleep.
Newborn in the mei tai. |
We're not perfect parents, but we're parenting our child in the best way we know how. Babywearing has literally saved lives (there have been cases where the babywearing kept the baby calm enough that the child's undetected heart defect didn't kill them). We've heard that we'll spoil her picking her up all the time, never letting her cry. But honestly? She rarely cries, and when she does 9 times out of 10 it's because she's tired. If she fusses, we distract her by singing songs or making silly faces. Lately I've taken to shaking my finger and saying "no, no, no, no, no" which sets her to giggling. She's a joyful child, and I believe that because she's worn, because she feels incredibly safe and attached to us, she is a happier baby. And if she gets too spoiled that's my cross to bear because I stay home with her.
And I get time to do things I want, like read a 600+ page book in a couple days. Yay!
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